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A few years ago, I did a “Trash the Dress” photo shoot after having finally kicked out my abusive, thieving fiancé. 

I knew I needed to get rid of my unused wedding dress. I thought about selling it, I certainly needed the money. But more importantly, I needed closure, and so I destroyed the dress. It was one of the best days of my life. I dressed up, felt pretty, and went out with my best friend and her mum to take some therapeutic photos. I had a bouquet of dead flowers, I wore some black leather boots and had a red flower in my black dyed hair. We spent the whole day taking photos and gradually trashing my dress. We rubbed dirt into it, cut it with scissors, tore it, and eventually I took it off and we burnt it! 

The man I nearly married was a textbook narcissist, his goal was to be in control. He stole my heart, then he stole my freedom and my belongings. Nothing that I owned was mine anymore. He moved into my house, paid no rent and always had a sob story as to why he needed cash. I lost not only everything I owned, but I lost who I was, he stole that from me. 

Having the photos from that shoot is incredible, I feel so empowered when I look at them. Having one of the photos turned into a line drawing was something very special. The artist, Ronnie, is the friend that was there with me at the photo shoot. She saw behind the scenes, and so her art captures something that the photo doesn’t. To me, this picture illustrates my determination to thrive.

Trashing my wedding dress was allowing me to take control back. I have burnt that one link I still had to him. My life is my own life, in a way it had never been before. I feel such a sense of freedom, my life feels lighter. I did a lot of healing from the trauma of that relationship, trashing my dress.

Burning something so beautiful and expensive was symbolic of the relationship I’d had, where he’d stolen everything I had. That chapter was now over, I could now enter the next chapter of my life, and I did so with a newfound strength.

— Beth

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This picture was captured just a few days after our daughter was born. It is our second picture together as a family. Our daughter was farting. Some might say such a beautiful moment ruined. I don’t. I see this moment as a perfect glimpse of motherhood and our journey to create such a brilliant addition to our family. 

As any same-sex couple will tell you the journey to creating a family it not for the faint of heart. Whatever method you choose most likely the path is filled with lots of bumps and bruises sometimes lots of tears sometimes very lonely and isolating but almost always full of worry and “what ifs.” There are so many points during our reciprocal IVF journey where my wife and I could have said (and sometimes did), “what a perfect moment ruined” or “how unfortunate that we have to go through this process” for any number of reasons: injections, hormonal outbreaks, fear of failure, disappointment in societies acceptance and understanding, the list could go on and on. 

But I challenge anyone on the journey to creating a family whether at the beginning, at the end or somewhere in the middle to cherish those moments. Although we may not look back and miss all the injections, tears, and failures; you are on a very special journey to creating the family you have dreamed about. Yes, it may not be as easy as someone else’s but it is incredibly, especially your journey and that in and of itself makes it special. 

For those already embracing motherhood next time that baby has a blown out or is up all night, remember how hard you worked and all the sacrifices you made to get here and try to greet those surprises with laughter (maybe a little caution if there is poop involved) because those moments don’t last forever and the surprises are what make them special and memorable. 

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